I struggle to get an erection and it's putting my girlfriend off

DEAR DEIDRE: I STRUGGLE to get erections even though I’m only 28 years old.

It’s been a problem since I got with my girlfriend last year. She is also 28.


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The first time we ever got intimate, I couldn’t get aroused.

After it had happened a few times, I bought some Viagra, but even that doesn’t guarantee success.

I still feel turned on, but it just doesn’t show.

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My girlfriend has a really high sex drive and is constantly disappointed when I can’t perform.

If I do manage to get erect, she’ll want sex multiple times a night, but I can only go once.

DEIDRE SAYS: Please don’t worry about only being able to have sex once a night.

There is always a space of time after a man climaxes before he’s able to get another erection. It’s called the refractory period, and it differs for everyone.

Speak to your doctor to see if there is an underlying cause regarding the erections.

Sometimes avoiding sex for a few weeks can help – for some, their erections return naturally.

My support pack Solving Erection Problems also has lots of advice.

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